Wednesday, January 23, 2013

What Treasures are you Hiding?

© Dariusz Sas |
When was the last time you took an inventory of all your accomplishments and talents rather than your failures and shortcomings?  

Does the time it takes you to list your short comings equal the time it takes to list your talents and accomplishments?  And, does the list of your accomplishments flow as easily as the shortcomings? 

Fear, self judgment, and self criticism conspire to have us believe that we are not smart enough, good enough, strong enough, kind enough, brave enough, cool enough, insert your own judgment here  enough.  These forces unite, forming a powerful alliance, and inserting themselves into our daily self-talk.  Its presence in our internal dialogue causes us to bury or fail to develop the treasures we have; treasures, which were meant to be shared.

Often our friends, family members, co-workers, and even those who barely know us, bear witness to our strengths and areas of excellence, we just have to stand still long enough to listen and have the courage to believe.
                                           (c) 2013 Dr. Lori C. Thomas


  1. When others recognize my strengths and areas of excellence, I feel uncomfortable, though I often feel that way about myself. Negative comments or critiques swirl around in my head days on end, while positives leave my memory so easily. Why is that?

  2. Your observation about the seemingly lasting impact of negative comments or events is one that many can probably related to; however, discussing the details of the why is something that I would like to address further in a future post. A short and perhaps minimalistic answer to your question comes from research that suggests we may have a so called "negativity bias," a tendency to be more reactive/responsive to negative aspects of our environment. Research has been suggested that this tendency to attend more to negative aspects of our environment may be important to protecting us from harm.